the slut wars
This appeared on FB [via Raincoaster AKA Lorraine Murphy who was sharing from Women’s Rights News]:
In case you can’t read that — which some people can’t because of image clarity — I’m going to go all carpel tunnel on your ass and type it again:
QUESTION: “If you had a daughter and she was going to go out to a party with guys drinking would you let her go out looking like a slut?”
ANSWER: “If the next generation has sons that are as repulsed by rape as they should be then we won’t need to worry about our daughter’s clothing. Hell, if we just make our generation shift the blame from the victim to the perpetrator and recognize rape as an act of violence rather than a natural hazard then we won’t even notice clothing. In fact the only way that I’ll need to worry about my daughter’s clothing is if society stays this fucked. I’d probably end up doing something incredibly violent to somebody if anything ever happened to one of my loved ones and the system failed them.
“So the question becomes: If you had a son and he was going out to a party with girls drinking, would you let him go knowing that one of them could be my daughter and that if he ever touched her without her consent I’d kill you?
“You focus on raising a son that you can confidently send to a party even if you think that you will die if he inappropriately touches a woman and I’ll focus on raising a daughter full stop.”
*I believe the original source for that is a Tumblr blog, Marxisforbros, btw, if you want to check that out. And if I’m wrong someone tell me so I can correct that.
There are a lot of responses and comments below the post on the Women’s Rights News post. They range from “I can dress however I want!” to “Fucking feminzi scum!” [That’s not my typo, I can spell Feminazi.]
Here’s the thing.
In some cultures, any female not wearing a burka is “dressed like a slut.” Shall our daughters wear burkas so as not to inflame rapists? Is that what we should teach them? Or should we teach our sons not to rape?
I’m going with teach our sons not to be monsters and rapists. Mileage may vary. Here’s a burka:
And here’s a clip of a woman dressed in Western European clothing told she’s naked and trying to seduce people and should go home and put on some clothes [that starts at 146 on the clip if you want to skip ahead, they tell her she’s going to Hell too].
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KupMaVU5ZEQ]
So back to THE THING.
EVERYONE in this conversation believes he or she knows what “dressing like a slut” means.
Bad news though.
What you think “dressing like a slut” means?
May be very very different from the boy who thinks your daughter is a rape toy because his and his parents’ idea of what “dressing like a slut” means is, well, not wearing a burka.
PS: All of this may be very new or confusing for some people so just in case you are a criminally insane bad parent or were raised wrong and so are a criminally insane rapist, here are some helpful tips on :::HOW NOT TO BE A RAPIST:::