the high road
Three times in my life —
I have apologized for something when I was not wrong.
Here is the funny thing about that.
Well, the two funny things about that.
Okay. The three funny things about that.
One : It has happened so rarely I can count the times on one hand.
Two : Every time I did it, thinking okay someone is upset and maybe if I apologize it will clean things up that will not hurt me so bad saying I am sorry for something not my doing or fault or wrong if it will make them feel better —
The person I apologized to decided my apology meant he or she was right. Decided I definitely did something wrong. And then slammed me harder.
And three : Cost me the friendship each and every time.
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10 Responses to the high road
This seems incredibly relevant to me right now. And useful advice in a certain fashion.
Thanks!
An apology should be followed up by the recipient with a simple “Okay”. Anything more than that is just irritating.
It’s a shame your friends didn’t take the high road with you and chose to wallow in the water under the bridge.
Here’s the thing. Real friends don’t keep score. Maybe they were never your real friends.
Well I am wrong enough I get to apologize plenty for the things I do get wrong. It is ironic to me I have paid harder though for the things I did not get wrong in the first place.
Do you think those friendships would have survived had you not apologized for the something you didn’t do?
Same thing happens to me all the time!
It is hard to know, Kitty. I think at least one of them would have. I know at least one of them would not have. The third? Unknown.
Once. I was wrong to do it. I was eight, and I still regret it.
What AJ said.
What I’m thinking is maybe it would have been more acurate to say you were sorry to be in this position at all- that’s true enough- but to take the fall for something you didn’t do?
It’s just wrong.